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Ooopsy the Clown threw in a bubble machine for the monkey-themed party marking Nicholas Castillo’s first birthday. She usually charges extra, but what’s a clown to do in a recession that has some parents throwing less extravagant celebrations for their kids?

Ooopsy, aka Amy Tinoco, estimates the entertainment company she co-owns took in about $80,000 before taxes and expenses last year. That’s about $46,000 less than in 2008. She used to do an average of 12 parties a weekend. Now it’s down to three.

“I didn’t realize how good it was,” said Tinoco, who wore a red wig, multicolored skirt and blue clown shoes for Nicholas’ bash. “It’s a huge difference. I have a lot of people telling me they are having a party, they are just not having entertainment and catering.”

Party planners and parents around the country have seen a pullback, though they agreed some will always take kid birthdays over the top.

Chandra Turner, executive editor of Parents magazine, said many kid birthday parties were so huge they were more like mini weddings.

“I think that parents for a while there were doing everything they could to make the birthday parties as amazing, and extravagant as possible,” she said.

The magazine recently did an informal study of the subject, asking 2,264 readers how much they expected to spend on their children’s next birthday. Twenty-six percent said less than $75, 49 percent said $75 to $200, 19 percent said $200 or more, and 6 percent said they didn’t know.

Extravagance in kid birthday parties, as in life, clearly means different things to different moms.

Lisa Castillo (Nicholas’ mom) of Davie, Fla., went well beyond any of the magazine’s dollar figures, but she did cut back her initial plans. She estimates that she probably spent under $1,000, switching to pizza over a full Italian buffet to help trim expenses. There were personalized, laminated placemats for some younger guests, custom-made crayon holders in the goodie bags and a monogrammed bib for Nicholas.

“It’s my kid’s first birthday,” she said. “I kept saying to my husband, ‘This party’s for me.’ “

Children’s parties were so out-of-control that some parents in St. Paul, Minn., formed a citizen action group to urge restraint and created the Web site birthdayswithoutpressure.com. “I think generally, it seems to me people are trying to tone it down a little bit,” said Julie Printz, one of the  founders.

She remembers the stress of trying to plan the perfect party for her oldest daughter’s sixth birthday six years ago. Printz, a mother of two daughters, was up at 2 a.m. cutting out foam frames.

“I kind of went crazy,” she said. “We are a very child-centered culture. . . . Is that really the right way to show your love? I don’t know if we have lost the ability to connect with our kids so we buy them things.”

Karen Sternheimer, a sociology professor at the University of Southern California, said people are having fewer children and they’re having them later in life, which seems to have some parents reliving their own childhoods through their kids.

“I think we have this idea of what childhood means and it’s usually very commercialized,” she said. “I think part of that is for the parents themselves. A lot of parents today, their primary social network, if not through work, is through their kids.”

—  Lisa Orkin Emmanuel, The Associated Press

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